SELF BELIEF - Why It's Difficult Sometimes

This article has been authored by Stand Out Online Member Renee Frangiosa, Equilibrium Company

Today I heard a story from a successful affiliate marketing coach…..

During this webinar she was saying how her success and the belief she has in herself is largely due to the unwavering backing, love and support she has from her family. Who have literally never stopped believing in her, her abilities, and potential. In fact, they have modelled this behaviour from the outset, and consequently, all of these pivotal values and beliefs are in her DNA. And that was quite clear to see in her conviction and presence. She 100% backs herself and believes she has what it takes to be successful in life. And she is. Undoubtedly.

After the mention of the importance of her family’s support, this was promptly followed by a confronting statement…….. ‘but I realise that this may not be the same for many of you’. And I silently put my hand up right there.

And I thought. Yeah – you’ve hit a pain point. And I have to admit I was quite triggered by that statement, because sometimes it’s not until someone puts something right in front of your face, that you’re reminded of things that you just don’t want to be reminded about.

As I went about my day, the gravity of that statement weighed heavy on my spirit, and then I remembered all of the inner healing work that I have been doing over the last 8 years, when I was bought to my knees by the dismantling of my marriage and becoming a part-time mum by default. And then there was my biological family who were the polar opposite of what parents should be.

But, somehow throughout my life, ‘I’m still standing’, and I feel more grateful and inspired every single day by how far I have come. This has nothing to do with academics, work, or any of the trophies that life has to offer for those things that others see on the surface. But it has everything to do with the overcoming those cataclysmic tornados that get thrown at you in life.And everyone has them. But not everyone acknowledges, or even talks about them.

I remember in a job I held for 8.5 years – I was leaving, and my boss said to me ‘Renee, there are basically 3 different types of people that you will work with in your life:

1. People that are good at their jobs, but do not have a nice personality.

2. People that are not so good at their jobs, and do not have a nice personality.

3. People that are good at their jobs, and are also nice people.

Then he stared me straight in the face, and said ‘You’re No 3’, and he had tears in his eyes, telling me how much he will miss me.

Those words ring so true, that I have never forgotten them. When I embarked on this business, I had no idea how I was going to come up with the funding. And that was my NO 1 excuse…….the good old ‘I can’t afford it’. But then my inner voice told me that I had to do this for myself for once. Something that was tangible, something that meant I was investing in ME. Putting all my cards on the table, so to speak. And leaving myself no excuses. To stop denying myself my true worth.

Perhaps, I am now giving myself permission, for the first time, to believe I can generate a future that reflects the things I only dream about. And most importantly, actually feeling and believing this to be true.

I have delved deep to honour these dreams, and this has certainly been sparked by my unwavering faith in God, and His miracles which I have been privileged to experience first-hand. It is God who I lean into when I have doubts and sometimes lose sight of what’s important. It is God who I anchor into when I feel confused and overwhelmed by things that trigger me in single motherhood (and there are plenty of those!). Because faith is at the core of everything I do, and I believe that this is the greatest blessing of all.